ego… Energy Gone Obscene! Part I
- September 22nd, 2011
- Posted in Personal Development . Self Awareness
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ego! It’s the biggest part of us all that is the cause of the life we are living and yet, for most of us, we know very little about what ego is! Now, I am not talking about what most of us call ego, that proud part of us that boasts. Yes, that is ego, but just a smidgen of what the real ego is! What I’m referring to is this phantom persona we started acquiring around the age of two.
Around that time we started to stop realizing who/what we really are! We were being told, “No, you can’t do what makes you happy anymore, like being curious and playing with everything you can get your hands on.” I understand some of that is required for our safety, outlets, cleaners, stake knives, etc. But for the first time in our new lives we were being scolded and didn’t know why.
I can’t remember exactly what I was thinking when I was two, but I bet it was something like…why are these giants who were so nice to me, giving me food and wiping my butt when demanded, now yelling at me, causing me to have this weird feeling I’ve never felt before, which was fear. That is when the phantom self appeared. We were told you are bad, you are now good, you must listen to me and do as I say, it doesn’t matter if you like it or not this is your role. I am mother, father, brother, sister, friend, teacher, etc. and you are little and don’t know what you are doing. We will let you know who you are, we will help create the phantom self/ego, because that is what was done for us.
No reason to blame anyone, because they would have to then blame everyone that contributed to their ego and on and on… it is what it is and if anyone knew how to not make mistakes, they would never make a mistake. It’s all just a part of this Life we are living. That’s the foundation to overcoming the ego. The ego is what it is, but don’t feed it any energy by believing what it is saying. Just observe the odd, sometimes scary and negative ego self talk, sometimes known as thinking. Just by being aware that this negative talk isn’t really you, but this made up ego, takes power away from it and is the beginning of overcoming the grip of the phantom self-ego! What I call Energy Gone Obscene.
“When you unlearn what your learned growing up, is when you really learn what life is all about”

Thank you this is very enlightening! I see how ego prevents us from going to the next level. Do you have advice on how to prevent or develop positive egos in young children?
Marc, the best way to teach children about the ego is by being a constant example of what it is to live a life of ego awareness. When we as adults don’t act from ego when interacting with our children they will learn to do the same. This is the “good” monkey see, monkey do thing!
Do you have any quick tips for differentiating between pure egocentric thoughts and actual conversations with God or one’s higher self?
All thoughts are filtered through our ego’s, so essentially all thoughts are then egocentric. When the mind is quiet, then we are aware of our connection to God and are being our “higher selves” The conversation we connect to when our minds are quiet is more like a feeling of “knowingness” about something. It can only be experienced to actually know what it is like and the best way to do that is meditation. Also being in nature or doing something you love, where you are fully there, is a great way to connect to our higher selves.
Hi, This post about EGO is really good. No doubt about it, my EGO has got in my way for long enough now and my life has been put on hold for way too long because of it. So thank you for your explanation of what the EGO is. I now plan to start reversing its effects and turn my life around.
That is awesome Shirl. Understanding what the ego is makes everything you want to improve in your life much easier. I’m glad you found it so helpful. Cheers!
I have been studying this very topic. The shy, low self esteem me was told one day (7 years ago) I had a huge ego, and I had hard time accepting that until I started reading up on this, and the statement came very clear. My negative self talk, and being so hard on myself, the doom and gloom, never getting ‘it’ right……was my very own ego. I finally understood and you have just explained it very eloquently. Thank you:)
Nice points but I can i ask where you learned of this?
I have learned this through much reading and experience. If you are looking for more information on ego, The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is a great place to start!
Nice blog. You’re absolutely right. Sometimes we’re our own obstacles…by subconscious negative self talk. In effort to succeed, we need to check that voice.
Great read!
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Well said, William! Amazing to me how the patterns we try to break as adults stem from when we were just two and so innocent. We need a new parenting paradigm to stop this madness and create a world of authentic people. Thanks for bring this important matter to our attention.